Why is this phrase (and its variations) so ubiquitous in romance? You don’t believe me? Well, here’s a list complied ONLY from my bookshelf of maybe 30 titles. I bet you can think of many more.
1. Futuristic Romance: “Again” he demanded, dragging her head by her hair and plundering her mouth. “again, goddamn it.” Naked In Death, J. D. Robb
2. Scottish Historical Paranormal: “You’re there, sweet leaf. Come. … Come for me.” Immortal Warrior, Lisa Hendrix
3. Romantic Suspense: “Yes, Maggie. Come for me, honey.” Giving Chase, Lauren Dane
4. Erotic novel: “Come for me”, he whispered. Dirty, Megan Hart
5. Paranormal romance/Urban fantasy: “Come for me, Jane.” Lover Unbound, J.R. Ward
6. Erotic Romance: “Come for me, then, Miranda, baby. Right now.” Market For Love, Jamaica Layne
7. Historical Romance: “Let go.” he panted, grazing his teeth across her throat. “Give in.” To Have and to Hold, Patricia Gaffney
My main problem with it is overuse, but there are others I can mention. Like its use in a couple whose relationship doesn’t call for it. Its tendency to take me out of the story by thinking “Oh no! What if she can’t?” And the feminist objection that is too obvious to state.
Some romance mysteries are easy to solve. For example, we know the Dairy Council of America conspired with RWA to insert the word “milking” in every orgasm scene, with extra cash payments for the use of “creamy” (which has made erotica authors rich, naturally).
But I can’t figure out how “come for me” became de rigueur. Did a memo go out from the Ministry of Heroine Hazards, warning of dire results if heroines are allowed to come without being told to? Or was it the Office of Alpha Hero Protection that issued the dictum (heh) that in order to enhance Alphaness, heroes must control even this aspect of lovemaking?
Use of this phrase doesn’t make me dislike a book: all of the above are in my house right now for a reason, after all. But I really feel it’s time to get creative!